A Beautiful Beginning After an Ugly Ending

Integrity isn't just, "Doing the right thing when no one is looking." It is also, not judging nor condemning someone else’s character based off the lies, projections, and insults of others. – ConsciouslyMe

What does that mean?

You see, as we interact with individuals throughout our lives, we have to consciously take note of one important factor when it comes to conversating with them.

“The one who constantly has negative things to say about others, in all factuality is covertly covering up their own hidden secrets and insecurities by portraying them unto others.” - ConsciouslyMe

Example 1:

I once had a fake friend. She’d constantly yell at her children, call them horrific names, and never show up for them during their most important milestones in their lives. When we spoke, she didn’t ever have anything intellectual to speak on. Merely, her daily antics, her infinite life problems, and everyone else’s business. A female who will smile in your face but slander your name behind your back. ESPECIALLY if you had good things going for you. She projected her own dark rooted life secrets unto her “friends” by claiming they are doing what she does.

“Rather than change and upgrade her life, she focus’ her energy on sabotaging others.”

Example 2:

Are you an empath? Whose been in a relationship with a narcissist? Ever been gaslighted? Tried to leave one? Dealt with that explosion? Dealt with those heinous projections? Etc.

At the core, this is a relationship created and based on false foundations. So much goes on within this cyclical pattern. From love bombing to extreme disrespect, to lies then deflections, Arguments created out of nowhere to the demands, “Let’s be okay with what I did to you so we can be happy again.”

Let’s reread that last line.

“Let’s be okay with what I did to you so we can be happy again.”

This is a prime example of what it means to lack “Self-Awareness”. When Individuals lack that knowing, they are unable to take accountability for themselves. A classic blazing and flashing red flag to pay attention to when it comes to detecting that you have a narcissist in your midst.

To lack the inner knowing of our own self is failure to evolve oneself.” – ConsciouslyMe

After a breakup with a narcissist, ESPECCIALLY if their tactics don’t work in their favor, they will go far and beyond to attempt to destroy every aspect of your life. Classic definition of projection. No one lies harder than a narcissist in desperation to exert control over people and situations.

Let’s not forget the flying monkeys they indoctrinate to gang stalk you.

Oh boy! That’s a whole free circus show of broken, unhealed and envious people playing “Playground Foolery” revealing themselves to you.

Why am I using these examples?

Building trust in relationships, friendships, etc. is crucial to a solid foundation. However, when you begin to build on lies and deceit, you’re doing a disservice to your connections and your own self.

Shall we reiterate?

“To speak negatively upon another’s name in all its entirety, is a reflection of the insulter’s character. Not the person being spoken about.” – ConsciouslyMe

Let’s dissect PROJECTIONS:

Jealousy and envy.

Projections are thoughts, rumors, ideals, personalities, insults, impressions, and characters that people will place upon others as a means to bring them down to their level.

In conclusion, recognizing red flags in people and acting accordingly is a sure fire way to avoid the full blown TV Drama series and productions of interacting with low hanging fruit.

-ConsciouslyMe